Reverse Arctic Winter

I have stopped expecting the out of doors to be inhabitable in Austin from mid-June to mid-October, and so I am not disappointed, nor do I complain about the heat in summer anymore.  It is reverse Arctic winter.

I had done the same with my relationships (an area of actual arctic winter), not expecting to get much, to give much, to discover or share much in them.  Then I recently read this at the tail end of the book The Geography of Bliss by Eric Weiner “… now I realize that Karma (a Bhutanese scholar and cancer survivor) meant exactly what he said.  Our happiness is completely and utterly intertwined with our people: family and friends and neighbors and the woman you hardly notice who cleans your office.  Happiness is not a noun or a verb.  It’s a conjunction.  Connective tissue.”

Reading this I realized that this was something I always wished was true, but had been told wasn’t. “Happiness is up to you,” “happiness is within you,” “be happy with yourself first,” and so many other pop-psychology directives of the late 20th century rattle around in my head. I even foolishly took a six year sabbatical from relationships until I got in “a better place.”  The thing is, I never really did, because you don’t learn about love by being alone. Good, bad, or 50/50, relationships are how we learn, grow, and love. They are like air, water, and food. They are necessary for life.

I feel like such a dumbass for missing that in the welcome brochure that is every natural instinct in my heart that I continually ignore. I wonder what else I wish was true, actually is true.

Thawing out, in Austin. Susannah Raulino

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2 responses to “Reverse Arctic Winter

  1. Go for it. And may your melting be as enjoyable and awe inspiring as the puddle and clarity it creates.

  2. I do love splashing in puddles! I’ll keep that thought. Thanks!

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